Life of Father Conclusion

As I looked into his face, that wrinkled brow, the silver stubs of hair on his chin, I thought back
to happier times. Times when he lifted me over his head and sat me on his shoulders so that I
felt like a giant, watching his feet traverse the pavement with huge, sure strides, the jolt of each
step assuring me that I was safe from the dogs that barked from behind the fences, the cars that
zoomed past on the street and the others we met along the way who had to look up at me to say
hello. I thought of the days in the country, eating a picnic lunch of warm ham and yellow potato
salad as he shooed the flies and the bees away. Sitting on a hillside until the day grew dim and
eyes drooped with sleep. I remembered those hard times when he struggled to keep his family
fed, when he cried himself to sleep some nights. I remembered the lessons he taught me from his
understanding of life, how God was the most important part of life while alive and the most
comforting in death. I let my thoughts wander back to those days of wonderful adventures
traveling in the mountains of West Virginia. I recalled the smile on Odie’s face, so pleased with
his first set of false teeth, I thought of Rebecca, where she may be today, if she ever left the
mountains. She would have loved to be here at this moment I was sure, to write her name on a
get well card.

My Father was dying and I was helpless to save him. He didn’t even know I was in the room..
he didn’t know that I was crying because of the pain I had caused him. Pain that I could not even
ask forgiveness for, heartache that would last until his final breath and beyond.
In my foolishness I had strayed from him, believing that I would find happiness with rascals,
unbelievers. I lost sight of his teachings, of his truths. I traveled with unsavory ones, liars and
thieves. Like a nomad, constantly looking for that which had been right here all along.

His eyes curiously avoided mine, even as they would open now and again.
He laid unmoving, unrecognizing. My heart pounded inside my chest like a drum, breath
shortened, lips quivering. I was not ready for this. Where the hell was everyone? Didn’t they
understand what was happening here? He could die at any moment, alone except for my
wretched soul weeping beside him.

Suddenly a bell rang in the hallway and I heard Doctors being called by name, to respond Stat. I
opened the door slightly and peered into the hallway as white coats with frantic faces flew by.
Opening the door further to look down the long sterile corridor I saw them rush into a room

several doors down from my Fathers. I wished they were coming here, I remember thinking.
Perhaps that would have given me new hope. Sadly no one came rushing into the room, not a
single white coat. I guess they knew what I didn’t want to accept as truth... that Father would
soon be gone.

I slowly shut the door and looked at him once more, quiet in his repose, an image
of peace, resolved in his faith and biding his last moments in dreams.
I kneeled beside him as a child saying his nightly prayers. I held his lifeless hand as he
stumbled in and out of slumber. Soon I began to hear the lonely sounds of death emanating from
his short breaths.
Finally, one last sigh, a faint gasp and he was gone.
.
Nearly twenty years have passed since then. Time enough for healing, for forgetting.
Still, there is that image preserved forever in my mind of my Father lying on that hospital bed
waiting patiently for death while I aguishly hoped that he would open his eyes again, just once,
so that I could say “ I’m sorry!” I repeated it over and over as I kneeled beside him those twenty
years ago, but I don’t know if he ever heard me.
If only he would have looked into my eyes. His eyes would have spoken to me. They could
have told me that he understood, that he forgave me. That through all the suffering I caused, he
still loved me.
Alas, after these long years, I have come to realize that Father chose not to look into my eyes
after all. That he was fearful of what they might say to me.