How do you like being old, he asked
me.
Old Age, I decided, is a gift
I am now, probably for the first time in
my life, the
person I have always wanted to be.. Oh,
not my body! I
sometime despair over my body, the
wrinkles, the baggy eyes,
and the love handles. And often I am
taken aback by that
old person that lives in my mirror, but
I don't
agonize over those things for long.
I would never trade my amazing friends,
my wonderful
life, my loving family for less gray
hair or a flatter
belly. As I've aged, I've become kinder
to
myself, and less critical of myself.
I've become my own
friend.
I don't chide myself for eating that
extra
cookie, or for not making my bed, or for
buying that silly
cement gecko that I didn't need, but looks
so Avant-garde
on my patio. I am entitled to a treat,
to be messy,
to be extravagant.
I have seen too many dear friends leave
this world
too soon; before they understood the
great freedom that
comes with aging.
Whose business is it if I choose to read
or play on
the computer until 4 AM and sleep until
noon?
I will dance with myself to those
wonderful tunes of
the 50's, 60's &70's, although from
the 80’s on, the music was, mostly, not worth dancing to.
I will walk the beach in a swim suit and
I
will dive into the waves with abandon if
I choose to,
despite the pitying glances from the jet
set.
They, too, will get old. LOL.
I know I am sometimes forgetful. But
there again,
some of life is just as well forgotten.
And I eventually
remember the important things.
Sure, over the years my heart has been
broken. How
can your heart not break when you lose a
loved one, or when
a child suffers, or even when somebody's
beloved pet
gets hit by a car or dies of old age? But
broken hearts are
what give us strength and understanding
and compassion. A
heart never broken is pristine and
sterile and will never
know the joy of being imperfect.
I am so blessed to have lived long
enough to have my
hair turning gray, and to have my youthful
laughs be forever
etched into deep grooves on my face. So
many have never
laughed, and so many have died before
their hair could turn
silver.
As you get older, it is easier to be
positive. You
care less about what other people think.
I don't question myself anymore. I've even earned the right
to be wrong. (Sometimes more than I
like)
So, to answer your question, I like
being old. It has
set me free. I like the person I have
become. I am not going to live forever, at least not in this world, but while I
am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have been, or
worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every single day if I want
to!
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